: The partner participating in the fantasy must feel secure and valued. It is crucial to maintain a distinction between a shared role or scenario and the inherent value of the individual as a life partner. Navigating the Risks

My girlfriend fulfills my netorase dreams. Every time I say those words—or write them, or think them—I'm still amazed they're true. I spent years convinced this fantasy would remain locked in my head, something I'd consume through porn and fiction but never experience in real life.

And the jealousy? It hit me like a wave. A hot, sick, electric wave. For five minutes, I felt like I was dying. My stomach churned. My jaw clenched. I gripped the bedsheets.