"Let's talk about 'The Gap,'" Sanne said, her tone dropping to something more serious. "This is the space between who someone is online, and who they are in reality. In a romantic storyline that begins online, you aren't meeting a person. You are meeting a projection. You project your own desires onto them. If they are slow to reply, you assume they are busy. If they are fast, you assume they are eager. You fill in the blanks with your own dreams."